Who says we can’t learn from a Netflix series?
I’m kind of a person who tries to learn from anything. This time, it’s Netflix! I watched Sex Education because some of my following on Instagram posted it on their instagram stories. Netflix also recommended this series to me, so why not. I decided to watch this series around two weeks before I start writing this.
The first episode in the first season is pretty shocking though. It was when Aimee Gibss had intercourse with Adam, but Adam couldn’t ‘coming’. Well, every episode starts with a similar scene. So, every time I watch Sex Education, I will always wear my headphone because I don’t want anyone to hear when they are moaning while having intercourse. hahaha! That could be weird if they thought I am watching porn.
The theme of this series is drama, romance, sex, and comedy. The sex rating of this series is 18. If you are below 18, I do not suggest you watch this because there are a lot of nude and sex scenes. Even if you feel cringe reading this post, you probably would not like the series.
Yet, for me, I learn a lot from this movie. Here is the list:
- Netflix’s Sex Education is about sex education.
When I was in elementary school grade fifth or sixth, I was sexually abused by my friend. He touched my bum. It happened a long time ago but I still remember vividly where did it happen; the color of my uniform and my shoes; my friends’ face, and the way he smiled at me like it was nothing; like it was just a joke. I don’t remember his name though, and I’m glad that I forget his name. I remember that I feel shocked and confused. I did not know what to do but I felt so wrong. I did not tell anyone because I did not know that it was included as a sexual abused. I was still a kid!
Then, when I was still in high school, I still didn’t get any sex education from school. It was crazy. Talking about is always very sensitive, taboo, and so unholy. So I always have to find it out by myself till now.
Netflix’s Sex Education definitely taught me a lot. And I’m thinking that school should start to put sex education in the curriculum. Students need to learn about this at an earlier age. Of course, we would not put about have intercourse, duh, but we can start about introducing about the body parts. For example, what parts of our body that should not be touched by anyone else. The material can be delivered through songs, so it will be more fun. Then, I believe it can lessen sexual abuse cases because kids or students or teenagers start to have sexual awareness.
2. Don’t say ‘I love you’ when you don’t mean it
This is in Indonesian kinda relationship context. I think some people tend to say ‘I love you’ easily but they don’t really mean it. In the Sex Education, when Eric Effiong and Rahim, or Otis and Ola, starts to dating they do not say ‘I love you’ to each other yet. Whereas, they are in a boyfriend-and-girlfriend relationship. Rahim ended up say ‘I love you’ to Eric after they had been together for some time.
I found it pretty sweet. So, the phrase ‘I love you’ become sacred, holy, and meaningful. You only say it when you mean it.love exists in many forms
3. Love takes many forms.
When we talk about love, it is not always about a-boyfriend-girlfriend thing, but love has many forms. In the final episode in the second season I think, there is a scene when Ola said ‘I love you’ to Adam. Then, Adam said, ‘I don’t love you that way’. Ola, then, confirmed, ‘You are my friend, I love you as a friend’. Adam froze, and hugged Ola afterwards. I found it very sweet too.
I reflect to my life and I realise that I have different forms of love too. I love my parents, my siblings, my friends, my crush, my colleagues, my students, and me; because we have to love ourself too before loving anyone else right 🙂 Each of these love feel differently and it is beautiful.
4. Sexual Identity (Pansexual)
There are a lot of sexual identity and I always wonder what pansexual is. According to Wikipedia, “pansexuality, or omnisexuality, is the sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity“. I understand the meaning but I don’t understand how it words until Ola shows it to us.
Ola has kind of a queer vibe. At first, I thought she is a lesbian, but then he dates Otis. After that, she likes Lily and kind of date her. And eventually I get it!
So, being a pansexual means, you are attracted to the person, their soul, their character, and their charm regarding their gender. Being a pansexual, like Ola, she doesn’t care about the gender. When she likes a person, she likes a person no matter it is a she or he.
5. Saying no it’s okay
Have you ever feel uneasy when you have to say ‘no’ to someone? Netflix’ Sex Education teaches us that saying ‘no’ is your rights and it is ultimately okay! For example, there is a scene when Steve is asking Aimee to have sex, but Aimee refuse it because she doesn’t want to do it. Steve understands and okay with it because sex should be based on each others’ concern.
6. Be opened and communicate
Last but not least, I like Otis and Dr. Milburn relationship. As a mother, Dr. Milburn always tries to have a communication with Otis. I think, not only between in the family, communication is important. We can’t expect someone to understand what we want unless we communicate it in an appropriate way.
That’s a wrap. That is the six things that I think I learn from Netflix’s Sex Education. Not endorsed by Netflix, but are you interested to watch it now? 🙂